In The Disciple Maker’s Handbook, Bobby Harrington offers a 5-step example of his discipleship cycles. The 5 steps are: Listen, Recruit, Prepare, Engage, and Release.[i] I will give a sentence or two on each of these in order.
Listen. Harrington means that we must seek guidance from and listen to the promptings of the Holy Spirit as we intentionally seek to engage the discipleship process. Harrington vulnerably admits that “the groups that I led in the past that failed to multiply had one thing in common: they were built in a prayerless, hurried fashion.”[ii] The best teachers simply share what the Lord is teaching them; likewise, the best disciplers are those who explain and model the life of a Christ follower out of the overflow of their own walk. To experience that overflow, we must be sensitive to the Holy Spirit through prayer, Bible reading, reflection, . . ., in short, the spiritual disciplines.
Recruit. This step requires an incredible amount of intentionality and discernment. Not everyone is ready for an intimate discipleship relationship in every season. Harrington suggests using the AFTeR acronym: available, faithful, teachable, reliable.[iii] Is the person committed enough to carve out focused time for a discipleship relationship? Has the person consistently held true to his or her commitments? Are they submissive to teaching, adapting, and changing? Can you count of the person to show up and take seriously the rigors of discipleship? And all of this should be couched in continued prayer through the Holy Spirit.
Prepare. We have to offer something after recruiting people to join us in a discipleship relationship. Harrington suggests presenting a covenant on the first meeting for the sake of accountability. Cast a vision during the first meeting for what these individuals (and the group by extension) will become through this process. Be open and vulnerable with your life and your story from the beginning and it will set the tone for the group.
Engage. We use the Word to cast a vision of the kingdom and the kingdom life for those seeking to know and follow Jesus, or to know better and to follow better Jesus. Curriculum abounds for walking with a group. We suggest Bible or Foundations Curriculum. Either way, we are using the convicting principles of the Word to drive people to be transformed, formed, and conformed into the word and deeds (think worldview) of Jesus. You must meet regularly with the group and it is essential to keep contact during “down times” through text, email, etc. Harrington also suggests meeting 1-on-1 with each group member every 4-6 weeks for more focused attention.[iv]
Release. We prepare and disciple people not for the purpose of keeping them in our local community forever, rather we disciple them so that they will go disciple others. We have to empower those we disciple to do the work of discipleship themselves. And the reason a sound, reproducible process is so important is because people generally disciple others in the same way that they were discipled: as we do unto them, they likewise will do unto others. It is our job to keep the terrible privilege of kingdom multiplication in the front of our disciples’ minds; we must continually cast vision of the reward and joy in making disciples.
[i]Bobby Harrington, The Disciple Maker’s Handbook (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2017), 47.
[ii]Ibid., 47.
[iii]Ibid., 50.
[iv]Ibid., 55.
Discussion of moral improvement or behavior modification, so-called, has become taboo or equivalent to a four-letter word in much of contemporary discipleship discussion. Well-meaning comments about how we are after something other than behavior modification or after more than a self-improvement program abound in contemporary discussions of discipleship. I have even made such comments myself. However, in reading Dallas Willard’s The Divine Conspiracy this weekend, I was convicted to qualify such statements against discipleship as moral improvement a bit more than is commonly practiced.
First, the dark side of things that generate anti-moral improvement comments. I’m sure we all know of individuals who were brought to church as kids in order to get some morals. Many of us attended, perhaps endured, countless Sunday School lessons on the don’ts: don’t hangout with those sorts of kids, don’t do those sorts of things, don’t be out past such and such an hour, etc. And, if we were to faithfully avoid the don’ts, then we could consider ourselves disciples. Oh, how much more our Lord wants for us! This mentality which generally minimizes our evangelistic opportunities and places us in prime context for a self-absorbed faith is rightly condemned by contemporary, and ancient, disciplers.
Nevertheless, we follow a Lord who said, “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect,” (Matthew 5:48) and, “Unless your righteousness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of God,” (Matthew 5:20) and follow the teaching of Peter who quotes Leviticus, “Be holy, as I am holy,” (1 Peter 3:16) and the teaching of John, “This is how we are sure that we have come to know Him: by keeping His commands.” (1 John 1:5) Yikes! On my best days I’m still far from perfect, certainly infinitely far from the maximally perfect being!
Clearly, moral behavior matters to our God. After lamenting the 1990’s scene on moral and ethical teaching in the university, Dallas Willard wrote that “there now is no recognized moral knowledge upon which projects of fostering moral development could be based.”[i] In other words, moral behavior or “right and wrong” are not pieces of knowledge; they are more like feelings or mere expressions of the values of a particular community. They are by no means objective truths given to us from outside the physical universe.
I was convicted that if I am not careful when talking about discipleship as distinct from moral development and behavior modification, then I will be in precisely the same boat as these individuals who reject moral truths as candidates for knowledge. Perhaps my blunder was simply selling short the calling of Christian morality, that is, perhaps I sold short the Lord’s majesty as the maximally moral being.
For example, is it moral to knowingly allow people to endure great suffering? If the answer is no, which it is, then it is immoral to not evangelize. Is it moral to have the ability to help someone mature in their faith but to refuse because of concern for our own wants? If the answer is no, then it is immoral not to invite along the lost, searching, and maturing. Is it moral to be self-absorbed about what the faith can do for me? If the answer is no, then it is immoral to act as if the entirety of the kingdom of God is about you.
In short, I am arguing that we do not need to avoid moral improvement as a major part of our discipleship. Instead, we need to properly understand morality as the full expression of the words and deeds of Jesus in our day-to-day lives. My new statement, henceforth, will be: moral improvement is God-glorifying and Christ-honoring, and to be moral we must faithfully obey the commands of God, including sharing our faith and discipling the lost, searching, and maturing.
[i]Dallas Willard, The Divine Conspiracy: Rediscovering Our Hidden Life in God (New York: HarperOne, 1997), 3.